Deciding What To Do With Your Grief & Loss

“Crying is all right in its way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.”
~ C.S. LewisAnyone who has experience unbearable grief knows much about a heart torn apart. Anyone who has experienced agonizing loss of happiness caused by a sorrowful, very real, grieving incident knows much about uncertainty. Comfort and clarity are fleeting. What or who you have lost become an unwanted reality. What shall I do is a question that rises to the top on your to do list. Four must-consider suggestions follow:First Overcome Fear”Choose what lies in the shadows to be a matter for discovery and adventure, rather than fear.”
– Jonathan Lockwood HuieYou have to prepare for discovery and adventure. Life can become easier as you choose to move beyond fear – fear of losing confidence, fear of disappointment, fear of additional uncertainty, and fear of the unknown future. Then most concerns become possible and most challenges become a worthwhile adventure. In the shadows of your inner empowerment are solutions not needed until the time of your horrendous grief and loss. Seek solutions for ways to transform all fears to healing hope.Second You have To Prepare For Pain & Discomfort”We are not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us; we are wondering how painful the best will turn out to be.”
~ C.S. LewisSaddled with new pain in your heart and mind – because of your grief happening – leads to confusion about the outcome of what lies ahead. Let’s be honest, grief can dig deeply into your soul and your heart may cry out in anguish. You experience a new and dark sadness; perhaps the depth of your pain is greater than you imagined. It’s OK to feel the discomfort and pain. The Key is to recognize that underneath the all-time low of your experience is the need to reconcile your grief and loss. Healing your pain is in reconciling grieving emotions and thoughts.Third Seek Intuition”You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.”
~ Alan AldaAs emotional and sometimes physical pain comes into your life it is common to turn more fervently to God for strength, peace and inspiration. If you feel like you are stuck in a deep hole and you can’t flap your eagle wings because of the complex grief mud caked on them – take hope YOUR GOD CAN LIFT YOU OUT OF THE DEEP SWAMP OF DESPAIR AND HOPELESSNESS AND SET YOU ON A HEALING PATH. Certainly, doing so can be comforting and helpful. Nonetheless, seeking your own inspiration is also very important. Your personal inspiration is very important. The body becomes what the foods you eat are, just as the spirit becomes what thoughts you think you are. Searching in your grief wilderness helps you discover who and what you really are. Discovering new beneficial enablement about yourself can be
empowering, intuitive and inspiring.Fourth Take Action”When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems you cannot hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time the tide will turn.”
~ Harriet Beecher StoweNo matter what happens on your life journey, what you think – your attitude – determines your quality of life. Permanent disability and lasting declining health conditions cause loss of some discretionary freedom. Grief is an uninvited guest imposing its will upon you. Journeying through my experience of sorrow an uncertainty I learned I must not allow all days to be sad. I have learned that I must allow myself days of difficulty but also happy hopeful days. Often peace begins with a pause of hope and quiet determination. I learned I needed to begin with creating a mindset for all that is possible. Doing so is key to preparing the way for beneficial shifts and changes. Without my participation, certain activities are just a process of words. A readiness to take the bull by the horns and take action becomes necessary.Overcoming fear of the presence and the future is essential to peace and hopefulness. Pain from a serious grief experience is a reality. You must prepare to meet it head-on. It’s OK to feel the discomfort and pain. The Key is to recognize that underneath the all-time low of your grief to take action now. Remember how much your attitude determines the quality of life you experience; it also has much to do with the healing in your life. Beneficial actions can be the solution to stop grieving and start healing.